Strengthen Your Connection to Your Child Through Play

Connection and play are at the heart of human relationships, especially in parenting. For neurodivergent moms raising neuro-spicy kids, these two elements are not just tools—they are lifelines. In a world that often feels overwhelming or out of sync, fostering connection through play can build trust, strengthen bonds, and create joyful moments that sustain both parent and child.

Why Connection Matters

Connection is more than just spending time together—it’s about feeling seen, heard, and valued. Neurodivergent children, like all children, thrive when they feel understood and supported. However, their unique ways of communicating, processing emotions, or navigating the world can sometimes make connection challenging.

Building meaningful relationships starts with understanding. When parents embrace their child’s unique neurodivergent traits—whether it’s intense focus on a favorite topic, sensory sensitivities, or a need for routine—they send a powerful message: “I see you, I accept you, and I love you for who you are.”

The Role of Play in Connection

Play is a universal language, and for neurodivergent children, it can be a safe and natural way to express themselves, process emotions, and build skills. Play offers a low-pressure, high-reward way to connect with your child on their terms, especially when traditional methods of communication feel tricky.

Types of Play That Resonate

Every child is different, but here are some types of play that may resonate with neurodivergent kids:

  1. Sensory Play
    Activities like playing with kinetic sand, slime, water, or sensory bins can help neurodivergent kids regulate their emotions while providing opportunities for connection. Engaging in sensory play alongside your child shows that you’re sharing in their joy and soothing their needs.
  2. Role Play and Pretend Play
    Neurodivergent kids often love creating worlds of their own through imaginative play. Whether it’s pretending to be superheroes, reenacting scenes from their favorite shows, or inventing new characters, this type of play allows kids to explore emotions and practice social skills in a low-stakes environment.
  3. Movement-Based Play
    Many neurodivergent children have an innate need for physical activity. Activities like jumping on a trampoline, dancing, yoga, or playing tag can help them burn off energy, regulate sensory input, and feel connected to you through shared movement.
  4. Structured Games
    While some kids love free play, others thrive on structure and rules. Games with clear instructions, like board games, card games, or puzzles, can be a fantastic way to connect with kids who prefer predictable activities. Just be ready to modify the rules as needed to match their strengths and interests!
  5. Creative Play
    Activities like drawing, painting, building with Legos, or crafting can help neurodivergent children express themselves in nonverbal ways. Joining in on their creative pursuits can foster connection while celebrating their unique talents.

Practical Tips for Connection Through Play

  1. Follow Their Lead
    Let your child guide the play. If they’re passionate about dinosaurs, superheroes, or trains, dive into that world with them. The goal is to meet them where they are and show genuine interest in what excites them.
  2. Adjust Your Expectations
    Connection doesn’t have to mean hours of uninterrupted time. Even five minutes of fully engaged play can make a world of difference. Put away distractions, be present, and let your child know they have your undivided attention.
  3. Incorporate Humor
    Laughter is one of the quickest ways to build a bond. Neurodivergent kids often have quirky, delightful senses of humor—lean into this! Share silly jokes, create funny voices, or turn everyday activities into playful adventures.
  4. Use Play as a Tool for Emotional Regulation
    Play can help neurodivergent kids process big emotions. If your child is feeling anxious or overstimulated, a calming activity like coloring or sensory play might help them reset.
  5. Embrace Trial and Error
    Not every play attempt will be a success, and that’s okay. Keep trying different activities until you find what clicks for your child.

The Power of Play for Moms

Play isn’t just beneficial for kids—it can also be transformative for parents. Neurodivergent moms, who may struggle with their own sensory sensitivities or executive functioning, can use play as a way to recharge and connect with their kids without the pressure of perfection.

Play allows moms to:

  • Be present in the moment.
  • See the world through their child’s eyes.
  • Foster joy and creativity, even on hard days.


Connection and play are the glue that holds relationships together, especially in families navigating the challenges of neurodivergence. By prioritizing these elements, moms can create a strong foundation of trust, love, and understanding that will carry their children—and themselves—through life’s ups and downs.

Sources:

  1. The Child Mind Institute
  2. Harvard University Health
  3. National Library of Medicine
  4. AutPlay Therapy
  5. Progressive Pediatric Therapy
  6. Association for Play Therapy
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